The thing wrong with all the females.

Don’t get any wrong idea because of the title, I’m not going to judge or complain about you beautiful souls, I just want to share an observation about you that you don’t seem to understand yourself. You can’t, you couldn’t have seen it because you live it, this might be a trap that you created for yourself out of complete unawareness of a male mind. I say a male mind because a male mind and a female mind work very differently, and in our current world where things are changing drastically, where male and female are somewhat becoming equal, you, as a female, you highly need to understand what a male mind goes through if you want to co-exist in the modern world as equals. Let’s start the argument from the beginning.

Females from a very young age are adored for their beauty, why not, they are, and as they grow older, their beauty becomes the centre of everything. They are approached by males because of their beauty, they are highly favoured if they are beautiful, they get a lot of attention because of their beauty, this might not be right to say but females do get a lot of advantages than males because of their beauty, and with this kind of favours and advantages, from a very young age, females begin to perceive beauty as the way of life. That’s why there are all kinds of cosmetics and designer clothes and jewelleries to make them feel beautiful. But do you really need all those things to feel beautiful?

Apart from the females, males are not that concerned about their looks because the society doesn’t grow them that way. A male is grown to be more concerned about his life, about how he is going to make a living, and because of the pressure the society puts on them they perceive work as their way of life. That’s the basic difference between the minds of a male and a female. A female mind prioritize beauty, and a male mind prioritize work. Because of this very difference in their priorities, there is always a conflict between the two genders. The conflict is not because we want to fight with each other, it is because that’s how we are grown by the society, and because of the way that the society builds the females, it leaves them very vulnerable. A man can always go on with his life, anyone can go on with their lives if they know how to make a living, but females are meant to just look good which doesn’t guarantee them a way of making a living. This as a result, makes the females become dependent on the males. Somebody might have had this thought to dominate the females and somehow, they managed to convince the entire world that this was the way of the world. It could be some another conspiracy but nobody talks about it—but that’s not my point.

Females do get a lot of appreciation and attention at a young age from the males because that’s the age when both the genders are able to live carefree. They are mostly in schools or colleges for which they are dependent on their parents. At this point of their lives they both are equally available as none of them have much idea about the real world, but as things start getting real, and the society makes them sure of their priorities, things begin to change.

Males become inclined to work while females stick with looking beautiful, males focus their full concentration on making a living while females stick with looking beautiful, males find work stressful and complain about it but all the females care about is looking beautiful. And after a point the difference between their priorities become difficult for each other, things fall apart—males seem to lose interest from the females they adored so much leaving them back to vulnerability. At this point females think they are not appreciated and don’t get much attention because they don’t look good anymore, which gives business to plastic surgeons, make-up industries, body augmenters, and maybe, feminism?

The thing that females need to keep in mind is that you are beautiful, you are very beautiful whatever the way you are, but your world doesn’t have to revolve around it. Know that we are appreciated for what we do, not for how we look. Appreciation of looks might matter at the young age when we are not mature enough to understand the real world, but it doesn’t matter when you are a full-grown adult. So suck it up and focus on the work, you will be appreciated and adored.

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139 thoughts on “The thing wrong with all the females.

  1. Add into that compilation…the natural “mating” game, with hormones & testosterone; males focus (in very general terms) goes to the ability to attract & keep a female…is logically (because females are more attracted to brains &/or security than looks) making a living. Whereas the female looks at her beauty…for the obvious reasons; males, lead by testosterone are attracted to beauty. Then due to socialized conditioning…both are very susceptible to the pitfalls of each.

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  2. This is full of sh**. “A female mind prioritize beauty, and a male mind prioritize work.” I’m a female and I’ve always prioritized doing well in school and later in work, as most other females I’ve known through the years. What planet are you from! 😦

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  3. First, I don’t think it is fully correct or fair for you to tag and bag either sex with these assumed absolutes. I believe you have written this with a mind of stirring the pot, so to speak. But in case you really believe what you wrote is true, I will assume you are either very young and inexperienced about “the mind of a woman” or you were raised and taught this by a very narrow minded community.

    There are plenty of men on planet earth who enjoy being taken care of by their intelligent, kick-ass women.
    Women are running businesses, fighting wars and countries and probably looking damn good while doing it, because they ENJOY looking a feeling good. They take pride in how they look. MOST DO NOT rely on beauty to get what they want. But I have seen men using their maleness in an office of women to act SUPERIOR. HMM?

    There are no absolutes in humankind, I don’t care where you live. Put labels on people and I guarantee they will slap you hard by proving your wrong, Every time.

    But this post was really for getting attention and sparking a conversation. Am I right? I hope so.

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  4. But since the writer said the world is changing, female’s minds are changing as well! There are more career women nowadays, and we can be both beautiful and hardworking :> I don’t think women focused on

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  5. But since the writer said the world is changing, female’s minds are changing as well! There are more career women nowadays, and we can be both beautiful and hardworking :>

    I don’t think women focused on being beautiful back in the days. They did care about beauty but that’s not the main focus. They focused on submitting to their husbands and taking care of the kids AND the house. That’s why most women were housewives, but now, we’re career women :>

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  6. I think it’s very unfair that you’re viewing beauty as something that only greatly benefits women when so often we’re body shamed and objectified and always made to feel not ‘good enough’ because we don’t meet an absurd beauty ideal that doesn’t exist and we can’t control.
    And I don’t think you can blame girls for feeling that way, when society systematically tells us that our worth is based on our appearance.
    Also I don’t know how many women you met who sit around and look pretty all day, I certainly haven’t met any and this may come as a shock, but female minds actually have the capacity to think about beauty AND work, if they choose to.

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  7. Interesting, but only true to a point as all generalizations are false (including this one). Not all women focus on their looks, but I agree that society definitely enforces the need to be beautiful and many, many, females are caught up in that trap. But there are males caught in it, as well, or why would so many of them be striving for that mostly unattainable “six-pack”?

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  8. I agree that men and women are different and the way we are raised is different because society treats us differently. This has been said endlessly throughout the decades. But in this piece you are mansplaining and you are doing it wrong, which makes it even worse. I’m not going to point out all the things that are wrong with what you wrote because you haven’t even done the most basic research in feminism and I’m not ok for the emotional labor that is going back to basics, but I really recommend you learn what the patriarchy is and how you can correct YOUR OWN thought to help us dismantle is.

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  9. Oh, this made me chuckle. Talking in absolutes is guaranteed to hit some nerves. Gender is a concept… masculine and feminine are different poles but all human beings are equal. Feminine grace is beautiful, as is feminine strength, as is women’s ability to step into their masculine. Perhaps you and I are talking about different worlds and different people.

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  10. I agree with this on many levels and disagree on a few, but that’s the idea isn’t it – to prompt and provoke, force thoughts. I appreciate it in that way. Perhaps I am not offended as others may be because I was never ‘beautiful’ even when young so I always had to work hard to get noticed by my efforts and accomplishments – notably harder than those blessed with feminine grace. So I have always seen this divide and been aware that those who benefit from it in any way, usually just do not as starkly. I agree with the previous comment about the attribution to genes and the biological mating aspect as that does indeed play into things more than we realize. Enjoyed the read!

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  11. It is not a true view of a female mind.
    We do not live for good looks and we are not even concerned about the way we look day-in, day-out.
    I have always beaten any male mind at any age. I work a lot in medical research, so, while there are profound differences, describing a female as dependent on their looks and spending life on that is ridiculous.
    Where I lived (Latvia, Europe) and live now (Canada), we do not sort out people based on male/female differences.
    Every person is unique, a whole universe, and they live their life differently, too.
    I believe you totally rushed in conclusions and generalized the entire female gender as being all the same which it absolutely isn’t.
    While show ladies, actresses and models might care a lot how they look, there a lot of other women who do not make the look priority.
    I’m not saying that because I look not good. I’ve always looked much younger and just fine. Well, it is quite terrible how wrong assumptions put down good people. Totally disagree with you on this matter. I’m not offended either because that’s what dumb people do: get offended by everything.
    I understand that any opinion has its chance to be expressed, I just simply never could agree with such a wide generalization of literally billions of people. Leave a space for distinction because there always is some.

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  12. Not all females were idolize by beauty when they came out the womb. Maybe because I have 3 older brothers. As much my mom wanted to make me “pretty” by wearing dresses and doing “girly” hairstyles, that wasn’t my thing. I was always dirty, had guy friends, and dressed as a boy. THerefore, I wasn’t viewed as beautiful. And that’s all the years before the age of 10. Around tween years, you think puberty would be kind to me. No it wasn’t. I was hairy, nerdy, still a tomboy, and fat. Therefore, no 10 yrs old boy thought I was cute. Girls in school agreed. And my parents were hopping the bandwagon on that. It didn’t get better until college. And even with that, nothing said hot like an easy girl. And I wasn’t easy. Long story short, I wasn’t really appreciated with my beauty until my late 20s. EVERYBODY, whether male or female has their own experience. Can’t generalize it because of observation you have seen from girls who have been genetically blessed since birth. Because I know plenty of men who heard, “Watch out for him! He’s going going to be a heartbreaker” because of their looks at a very young age.

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  13. I would guess you are still on the young and idealistic side of the demographic, and I hope you are yet to learn that the sector of the species you discuss here is limited and by no means a typical sample. Yes, there ARE females who live by these rules and there are males who are equally superficial, but one tends to avoid them if there is a choice. If we are wise, the partners we choose in life will have equivalent ethics, a common sense of humour, and complimentary professionalism (or otherwise!). None of the other things are important. Beauty is transitory unless it exists in the soul; outwardly we all must change, sometimes inwardly too. I hope the partner you have, or are yet to find, will be such a one, and you won’t be so shallow as to change them for a ‘newer model’ once the aspect you perceive as theirs begins to alter. BTW, did you say that sexual equality is almost reached? So the men are catching up at last, are they?

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  14. I believe it’s your own focus and the way you’re perceiving women’s behavior you’re questioning here. Appearances ARE important! Ask whomever who’s in a sociological influential position; be it a man or a woman. And any social interaction that hangs exclusively on this thread is doomed.

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  15. Reblogged this on Poemas con origen infinito and commented:
    I go to an association of feminists three times a week and I feel like I’m in the opposite position to your idea, enough universes are separating us from woman to woman to put us all in the same sack. We are simply energy, women also have masculine energy and men obviously also have feminine energy, in no case is appearance important. Thank you for reading my poetry

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  17. You are describing a past world. For some decades, women (at least from the western world) have begun to have an active role in society, to earn a living, in short: to assume life in the same way as men. But, it takes time to change the dominant patriarchal society model. Saludo.

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  18. So, at first, I found it so controversial that I wanted to laugh. It’s true to only a very small section of girls… not even women… just some girls. I’ve known a lot of the “female majority” who have been better than me in my studies and later in general life management skills (which includes finance). Change will take time… thank you for including the last paragraph. Good save.

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  19. I agree with Eliza. It’s not that black and white. First, I don’t see it as a female problem but as a societal problem. Second, I don’t see the “beauty problem” in myself or any of my female friends. We were part of the Women’s Liberation Movement in the 60s and 70s and many of us simply threw out those old rules.
    Thankfully, many of the men I know threw out those rules as well. They wouldn’t still be my friends if they hadn’t.

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  20. thanks for following us, i totally agree, most people focus on the beauty of the outside but they forget, that will be gone when we all reach 40+, but the true beauty is within that shows in our action and behaviour, be bold be you, that’s what every man needs.

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  21. Take note of this prescription for a virtuous woman. Work, work and work is more pronounced here for a woman.

    A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden. First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!” Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of- God . Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises!
    Proverbs 31:10‭-‬31 MSG
    https://bible.com/bible/97/pro.31.10-31.MSG

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  22. When speaking of human behaviors, I like to “take it back to the cave”.
    In other words, think about the human animal as it developed, and correlate this to the instincts we, as modern humans, seek to suppress.
    In this case, I believe the instincts behind some of this behavior (aside from the hormones and pheromones of actually dating-to-mating) are based on selection of quality mating material.
    In the world of ancient man, the female was pretty much stuck in the cave when nursing newborns. Human babies take a long, long time to grow and wean, longer than any other species.
    So the male role (not unlike other mating pairs) was to go out and get food to bring back to the cave.
    Using these simple parameters, it is clear that the physical condition of the female will attract better mates because she looks healthy and viable.
    The males in good physical condition and working hard, that is, fetching food, are deemed most worthy specimens to procreate with.
    Of course, mankind and its inherent insistence on overpowering natural instincts gets in the way to add all of that mental and social stress described so eloquently herein.

    Seek peace,

    Paz

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