Is teenage love highly overrated?

First of all, if you are a teenager, you have absolutely no idea what the real world is like, you have absolutely no idea how to survive in the real world, and yet you are so desperate to find the love of your life to spend your entire life with, you insane? There is a time for everything and you should be mature enough to understand that. When you are a teenager you don’t have to worry about a single thing in life because you have your parents to provide for you. You think life is all about having fun and everything is easy-peasy, until life slaps you in the face. Your parents sure care for you but they won’t be there beside you for the rest of your life, you’d have to take your own stand someday, and the sooner you learn the better.

When you’re young, your only priority in life must be learning to prepare yourself for the real world, which is really tough to survive in. Make sure you understand it from the very young age so that when life actually slaps you in the face, you are prepared and don’t get hurt much. But what does this life slapping you in the face mean you ask me?

It is when out of the blue you are made aware or you become aware of the meanness of the world. You have your parents to look after you so you don’t understand that nobody will care a single bit if you can’t take care of yourself. Except for your parents, nobody cares about you like that. You will be fun to be with until your parents keep providing for you, but when they stop, what are you going to do after that? No one should be taken for granted, even your parents.

You think you are young and you should be loved or should love someone as they show on TV, but that is fake. You will never understand love if you don’t understand yourself first. Don’t be in a hurry, prepare yourself. Read, learn, think positive, observe the world, make deductions, strengthen your bonds with your friends and family, so that when life comes to slap you in the face, you don’t feel a thing.

The common complain of people your age is that you are not understood, but you should understand that it is hard for adults to treat you right because you are not a kid anymore but you are not an adult either, it is very confusing. That’s why you can’t expect adults to understand you and treat you the way you want to be treated—you have to carry yourself up by yourself—it is the only way. However, the way you decide to carry yourself up is not right either.

As I said it is confusing because you are between the age of a child and an adult, you need to make your mind up how you want to be seen—as a child, or as an adult? Given the choice you would definitely consider yourself to be an adult—why be a child after all? And to prove that you are an adult, you begin copying the adults. You do as they do, you talk as they do, you dress as they do, you try to live as they do. But the thing that makes you so vulnerable, is that, you think by just copying the adults, you would become an adult. It doesn’t happen like that. Adults do as they do, talk as they talk, dress as they dress, live their life as they live, because of various reasons. A many thing happened in their lives that made them be the way they are. But are you aware of that? Just copying the adults won’t make you an adult.

If you really want to be perceived as an adult then instead of copying them try to learn or figure out why do they do the things they do, why do they talk the way they talk, why do they dress the way they dress, why do they live the way they live—keep filling the gap of knowledge. The more you become aware of the adult life and you keep bringing down the gap, the more adult you become. Adulthood is not about what is in the outside, it is about what is in the inside. Don’t get your heart broken, don’t get depressed over the things that don’t matter at your age. Focus on building yourself first. If you get through your teenage years with a big smile, you will keep smiling for the rest of your life. And don’t worry about love, it finds you one way or the other.

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113 thoughts on “Is teenage love highly overrated?

  1. As Mrs. Anna said, wise advice. You are completely correct that they, the teenagers most of all have no clue what is to live in the real world, but here is where I differ from you a bit. I did enjoy very much the read first of all, but let the kids be kids and they´ll figure it out sooner or later….hopefully sooner for their sake.

    Just my one cent and a half to say. Appreciate you very much for reading my Crazy blog.

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      1. 😊 Sometimes you can avoid the hard way when you learn from others experiences it saves you the headache of passing through it. Not for all though but in some cases.

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      2. I learned from other experiences, but until I didn´t go through really harsh times I couldn´t really assimilate it, I could have a notion hearing about them, another thing is experiencing them so they brake you or they make you stronger and I got to the conclusión there is a middle road that you can improve on if you want and if you want you fuck it up and go downroad

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  2. I have to say the ending was great when you talked about getting through your teenage years with a smile and the rest will come to that smile. I probably should had to applied it to myself, too late now.

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  3. 😂😂😂😂 this post is so funny . you know if I was still 16 while reading this post I would laugh at you and actually think you are the insane one because I had a boyfriend then and love was taking me on a trip . truly life slapped me , I would cry several times just because of boys . teen love is stupid that’s why they are so stupid not to take advise because they are actually stupid 😂😂 …

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  4. as teens, we didnt understand it was all hormones and how we reacted to them making us feel the way we felt. it isnt until later we can understand this, hopefully. teen time is a time to safely explore life and learn for a later time when we can, hopefully, know what is going on.

    a good post. unfortunately, the people, teens, will not see it and if they did/do wont believe it.

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  5. Teens are so emotionally tied to things that disappointments are overdramatized in their minds and drives many to suicide or drugs. Love becomes a life or death challenge. So many lost loves in my life too but now at 70 years old I’m glad I have nothing to do with any of them.

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      1. Divorced since 1984 and at my age romance is clearly not in my future. For others still happily married or even dating I would offer that how older people define love and understand love has a much broader foundation and components than for young people. I think as we age we certainly get more selective and conditional. The fact that it should be cherished and never betrayed crosses all generations.

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  6. Wise words.But as you know teenagers have to make their own mistakes and, I hope, learn from them. But there may be some out there who will follow your advice to “take time” and “know yourself”.

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  7. Thank you for following, Rashidul. As a mature: very…Mum of three sons, I recall those testosterone-fuelled years when they all thought they were grown-up and knew best…..Hormones are responsible for so much misunderstanding. Egos are HUGE – MOST really do think they are wiser than their parents. “What do you know?'” rings a bell, as does “You’re out of the ark, Mum!…” I recall, at sixteen, being devastated when a girl-friend pinched my new boy-friend…All part and parcel of growing up, I suppose. Thank you for your post warning of the pitfalls of youth. Best wishes.

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  8. Dear Rashidul, very good topic, but we all have been teenagers then we have been grown up people and now that I am an old lady, I think we have to go through that.
    Have a nice week end
    chatou

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  10. I don’t know, good advice “after” the fact, usually after several decades at least. But maybe that’s not the point of the transition from child to adult, maybe the passion and angst and confusion is just exactly what’s needed to be experienced. So we’ll remember, when we’re much older and been thinking we knew so much, that yeah, the passion was good, yes we live with angst, and confusion and realizing we don’t know it all is part of what we see seeing ourselves surrounded by stars and world’s we may never know this time around 😊 Like the post though, like the passion and (like all of us) the attempt to make sense of it all 😊

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    1. Thank you very much for your comment. I agree with you. I wrote this article because this is how I think now—didn’t follow it myself though. I don’t even expect anyone to listen to me, just getting the thought out there🤗

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      1. Definitely good to try those thoughts out on paper. I know only enough to know it’s a process & even what I wrote today may change or modify again. I don’t doubt there’s eventually some more solid semi-absolute, but not sure we can know it beyond intuition & feeling. I think we sense it, and so must speak; like we both have done 😊

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  11. This blog came just at the right time since I just broke up with my boyfriend and I don’t feel too much because as you explained I know that it wasn’t going to last and that there is so much more. Thank you for this wise blog

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  12. I really enjoyed reading your post, and I understand what you’re saying, and what you’re trying to get teenagers to understand. It’s a noble effort. I don’t know how old you are, but I will be 61 in a few months. I can still remember how brutal my teen years were.
    I don’t mean to be critical, but your post felt a bit harsh. Starting out with “you have no idea” i.e. you know nothing, I could hear the magical teenage defensive door slam in the face of the post. Which is a shame because you have caring thoughts there.
    We’ve all been teenagers. For some of us, it was agony. It’s in our DNA to look for a mate and unfortunately it’s all trial and error. Teenagers lack the wisdom that comes with age, and the experience from that trial & error that we had to go through. It’s kind of a vicious circle. It’s not their fault. I think having grown wiser through it, we would all want to alleviate the pain & heartache that teenagers go through. Unfortunately, there’s only so much we can do and if they don’t listen to our advice, there’s even less.
    Thanks for a thought provoking post and for the follow!

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    1. Thank you very much for your comment. I understand teenagers need to learn things at their own pace and in their own way, I’m 21 by the way, I don’t know much about it either, it’s just a thought that popped up in my mind so I thought I should share it. I am very aware teenagers won’t take the advise, I don’t even expect them to, those foolish days are the best ones after all.

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  13. Great well written and informative post. Thank you. Two different perspectives in my reply. My younger brother shocked the whole family and was advised against marrying. He was 18 she 16. They claimed passionate and lifelong commitment and unexpectedly she discovered she was pregnant. This made my brother more determined to marry her and this they did. Sadly the baby died and how they grew up because of this. Through many valleys and troubles etc they have just celebrated 50 years of marriage and now are grandparents to six. (Got to go. the 2nd perspective is about myself) Will return. if you can bear with me. Cheers!

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  14. I had sex for the first time at the age of 19 with a girl I loved. It was one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. I will cherish the memory forever. I proposed to her that night. She said, no, wisely. She was half Native American and I developed serious mental problems later. Love would have kept us together but she decided to join her culture, rather than marry a man destined for the corporate world. We remain close friends. Teenagers are wiser than you think. She was 18.

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    1. Thank you very much for your comment. I do not doubt, teenagers are wise. But there are some teenagers out there who can’t reason like you two did, they take it real hard, my article was directed towards them.

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  15. Hi Rashidul.huda
    First of all thank you so much dropping by on my blog and establishing the connect. I read your post and must say I quite liked it and am impressed. In fact I already know whom to share this post with. Your writing is simple, to the point and appealing. I am glad we could connect.

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  16. I wish somebody told me that when I was young… I probably would not take them seriously… If you can, check out this guy called Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev, he seems to be saying similar things to young people ”get to know yourself first, build yourself, don’t commit yourself to romance too soon and so serious to death…”

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  17. Wise words, but youth loves with such passion. It is always a battle between the heart and the head. Perhaps when young, the heart should win. As the years go by, the head should win. Absolutely fantastic post–well done, again I might add.

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