Is teenage love highly overrated?

First of all, if you are a teenager, you have absolutely no idea what the real world is like, you have absolutely no idea how to survive in the real world, and yet you are so desperate to find the love of your life to spend your entire life with, you insane? There is a time for everything and you should be mature enough to understand that. When you are a teenager you don’t have to worry about a single thing in life because you have your parents to provide for you. You think life is all about having fun and everything is easy-peasy, until life slaps you in the face. Your parents sure care for you but they won’t be there beside you for the rest of your life, you’d have to take your own stand someday, and the sooner you learn the better.

When you’re young, your only priority in life must be learning to prepare yourself for the real world, which is really tough to survive in. Make sure you understand it from the very young age so that when life actually slaps you in the face, you are prepared and don’t get hurt much. But what does this life slapping you in the face mean you ask me?

It is when out of the blue you are made aware or you become aware of the meanness of the world. You have your parents to look after you so you don’t understand that nobody will care a single bit if you can’t take care of yourself. Except for your parents, nobody cares about you like that. You will be fun to be with until your parents keep providing for you, but when they stop, what are you going to do after that? No one should be taken for granted, even your parents.

You think you are young and you should be loved or should love someone as they show on TV, but that is fake. You will never understand love if you don’t understand yourself first. Don’t be in a hurry, prepare yourself. Read, learn, think positive, observe the world, make deductions, strengthen your bonds with your friends and family, so that when life comes to slap you in the face, you don’t feel a thing.

The common complain of people your age is that you are not understood, but you should understand that it is hard for adults to treat you right because you are not a kid anymore but you are not an adult either, it is very confusing. That’s why you can’t expect adults to understand you and treat you the way you want to be treated—you have to carry yourself up by yourself—it is the only way. However, the way you decide to carry yourself up is not right either.

As I said it is confusing because you are between the age of a child and an adult, you need to make your mind up how you want to be seen—as a child, or as an adult? Given the choice you would definitely consider yourself to be an adult—why be a child after all? And to prove that you are an adult, you begin copying the adults. You do as they do, you talk as they do, you dress as they do, you try to live as they do. But the thing that makes you so vulnerable, is that, you think by just copying the adults, you would become an adult. It doesn’t happen like that. Adults do as they do, talk as they talk, dress as they dress, live their life as they live, because of various reasons. A many thing happened in their lives that made them be the way they are. But are you aware of that? Just copying the adults won’t make you an adult.

If you really want to be perceived as an adult then instead of copying them try to learn or figure out why do they do the things they do, why do they talk the way they talk, why do they dress the way they dress, why do they live the way they live—keep filling the gap of knowledge. The more you become aware of the adult life and you keep bringing down the gap, the more adult you become. Adulthood is not about what is in the outside, it is about what is in the inside. Don’t get your heart broken, don’t get depressed over the things that don’t matter at your age. Focus on building yourself first. If you get through your teenage years with a big smile, you will keep smiling for the rest of your life. And don’t worry about love, it finds you one way or the other.

132 thoughts on “Is teenage love highly overrated?

  1. Wow! It is a combination of testosterone and lust. As long as there is no permanent outcomes..ie pregnancy or disease I say go for it! Romance is underrated. Trust me, I’m nearly 81 years old and I’m in love! And lust…life is to be lived.

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    1. I’ll be 78 this November if anyone is counting, and there again is that question of time. I have long felt that in many, if not all ways, I am ageless. My mind does not think in terms normally of “age.” I just think in terms of what I know and what I have learned. And I do what I do and what I can’t do, I might not have ever wanted to do or been able to do since I was even a child. I don’t think I understood or was capable of understanding what “love” meant when I was younger. Oh yes, sex and feeling all dizzy over, or feeling good with someone, but as I have lived through the years (or time), I believe that love is the acceptance of what someone is, or is not, and the appreciation of that state. We likely have to know a lot of people in our lives before we come to know what “love” really is all about.

      So perhaps “love,” like “time” is a construct of mankind to help us have a reference frame, or perhaps like money, a way of keeping track of whether we have “earned” enough money, etc. – all of these things can be argued to have meaning. I agree about living life fully, or going for whatever we are capable of doing that is not a negative thing in our lifetimes. And there is that word again – time. We do go through all of these life stages, and can we actually say there is no time, for they surely are not all happening in the same “time.” Thank you again for the good topics. Very thought provoking.

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  2. Yup wise advise to all teenagers since they forget that their parents did alots of sacrifices just to make them succesful in their life but they went to the wrong jugements resulting in ruin of their life. Great post..😁😁😁😁

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  4. Being a teenager is a very difficult time all you can think about is your parents are out of date and your friends seem to be having “fun” and you just want to be happy and have fun too. Kids/teenagers mimick what they see and feel. So In my opinion if the home life was ideal to where the child is happy having fun and loved and cared for then there’s nothing that they will need to look for elsewhere (there’s always exceptions to the rule). It’s the responsibility of the parent to mold guide and tie the words of the Bible on their hearts and the child will not turn aside from it.. just my opinion

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  5. The really fortunate ones are those who, after a few dalliances, fall deeply in love with someone in teens or even in childhood and remain so for life. I am one such, and to those who would hold that I have lost anything by not flitting and sipping like a demented butterfly I would say, ‘Utter rubbish; it has given me all I would ever need and more.’

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    1. I’m the same as you!!! I was told that all that time, that I was missing out. That our love was “kid stuff”. I met my husband at 14. Instantly it was lust haha…It was pure attraction. Got into trouble with my parents who forbade me to see him as I was so young and he was 17. They didn’t think a 14 year old should have a boyfriend, and being a mom now, I might agree, however, we spoke on the phone every day, and saw each other when we could. At 16 my family finally accepted him. I enjoyed my freedom as I remained in my parents house until I was 27, when we were having our 1st child. I enjoyed my teen years, my 20s and now my 30s, and he was there for all of it and I didn’t miss not a thing!!!! I didn’t miss out on flirting or dating because I had what I wanted and what I needed.

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  6. Eye-opening. I always find the girls in our school in cheesy situations and involving themselves with crap I thought was only existent in some movie stereotype. But considering the pace of how time has changed and so have the concerns of teenagers through the generations, it’s high time that we learn the importance of control and what it means. It doesn’t mean always being strict or firm in your demeanor, but maintaining a balance between fun and studies (for I’m a student that’s what tends to concern me mostly). It’s time that every child must know how to handle their situations in an appropriate manner, rather than questioning themselves and living with confusion about some shit coming only through assumptions of things not only observed and truly known about in the first place.
    This read made my day! 🙂

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  7. I am a teen and I have never fallen in love, but you know seeing my friends at this age I have decided and understood I will never fall too😅😂. I believe God gives you everything at the right time. You shouldn’t go behind something which is not right for you at that time. But as a teenager everything seems to be right, whatever you do seems to be perfect. But as an adult everything we do in teenage phase seems to be wrong. To keep a balance we should go with the flow and concentrate on what is right for us at that particular time. I really loved the topic.
    I recently started writing, please show some love even in my blogs.😃

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  8. I’m in the minority here, I met my now husband when I was 14, I’m in my mid thirties now. You’re absolutely right I didn’t know a thing about survival….but I knew I loved him…and he loved me. We have had ups and downs, but 20 years later, and 2 children….He is my best friend. If I would have listened to people telling us, “teen love doesn’t last” or “that’s puppy love it isn’t real” I might have been somewhere else miserable. I’m glad we followed our hearts. He was the best thing that happened to my life.

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  9. “There is a time for everything and you should be mature enough to understand that.” Well the statement in itself is so contradictory. If we’re mature enough, then how come you think we are not ready for love?
    Love is beautiful and whenever it finds you, irregardless of your age…you embrace it and enjoy the journey.

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  10. You cannot ignore then teenage love being a product of youth insecurities about their future life success. I also agree then that a wide generation gap only exacerbates teen inability to feel love for real. Love is painful at times as adulthood teaches you.

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  11. Yeah…well i am a teen to, but i wouldnt really say i had fallen inlove at the time or with the right person, but yeah actually wats interesting was i thought i will not get over the guy..but turns out, i dd… finally i am free u know…and yess plz u guys gotta follow me..i am New here..plz lets show each other support..and comment on my site..so we kinda make a good conversation…😇

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